Rejection is not denial but a delay. It can be a powerful push toward something better if handled with resilience and determination.
Being rejected is like someone tearing you apart. Someone pulling the rug off your feet. It can be damaging, disappointing and demoralising.
If one knows how to DEAL with it, one can get the best out of rejection.
Good News is that it can also be an opportunity to claim more respect and acclaim for your deed if you stick to the formula.
Before I pull the lid off the formula, it is important to understand that rejection is not a denial, it is more of a delay. A lot of people feel they are being denied what should have been theirs! They blame their fate or destiny for the sequence of events.
I have been through it, felt unlucky many times on not getting the desired result. But now when I look back from the lens of present with deep focus into my past, everything makes perfect sense.
I worked damn hard on my dream to get through India’s best Architectural College before passing out of school, but it didn’t happen? Despite being a bright student, who worked very hard, I didn’t get the desired result. I was deeply hurt and angry with God, swimming in the sea of tears.
If someone were to ask me today if I repent on not being an architect, my answer is NO. I am happy being a communicator. It has brought huge name, fame and satisfaction to me through my work as a news anchor. I was meant to do this and I am happy I didn’t become an architect. It makes total sense now that why I got rejected earlier, because there was something better waiting to happen for me.
One may feel rejected of having lost a chance at something, at that moment but finally there is always something more suitable waiting to happen.
We expect things, events and people in our life from our limited understanding, wants and perspective but there is much more than meets the eye. There is a higher wisdom which works the mechanics of who gets what and this higher wisdom is equally loving to all.
There will be many things and events that would have hurt or be uncomfortable to you at that time, but now if you look back, I m sure you may have a different opinion now. Just think of it.
“Everything you have experienced in the past was necessary for you to become the person you are today”, says Robin Sharma, Leadership Expert.
Rejection can be a blessing if taken positively. It can fuel the dormant will power to swing into action. People who crack the prestigious IAS, the IIT entrance tests or other tough exams in their second or subsequent attempts are a living example of how rejection was not a denial but a delay.
J K Rowling, the first author to make $1 billion by writing books on the planet had to suffer a series of rejection from allegedly 13 publishers before she finally got the green signal from Bloomsbury to publish it in 1997. She was suggested to use a pen name K as the publisher thought a female author for a boys’ book may be less appealing. Her editor also suggested her to get a teaching job as children’s books were unlikely to make a living for her. Her life turned around when after three weeks of being published in the UK, the Scholastic bid $ 1 million for the American rights, which shook the literary world. The rest is history.
Let’s come back to the formula of dealing with rejection. It is the need of the hour.
No one has the right to stamp anyone a failure or a disaster. Outrightly rejecting someone, leaves little scope for mending ties. One may be short of something but everyone has an inherent ability to learn and bounce back.
If one has not received something one desired, it is not that the God or destiny or the Universe underrates you but it’s your own perception and beliefs hidden subconsciously that spoil your game.
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